A blog of lessons for life

We all want to be happy. But sometimes, our idea of happiness is clouded by what society or our inner voice tells us. We need specific things or achievements to be truly happy. But research shows that it’s not always these big moments or possessions that give us long-lasting joy. Chasing the Wrong Goals From the time we are young, society often guides us towards a certain idea of success. We’re told that possessing the latest gadgets, earning promotions at work, or achieving life’s major milestones will bring us happiness. But interestingly, research reveals a different story. While these achievements may bring short-lived joy, they often leave us with a feeling of emptiness, leading to a never-ending cycle of wanting more. Instead of chasing these external markers, we should be looking inward for more sustained and authentic happiness. Being Afraid to Be Too Happy It might sound unusual, but many of us carry a subtle fear of experiencing too much happiness. Some think there’s a catch: “If things are going too well, when will the other shoe drop?” Others may carry guilt, thinking they don’t truly deserve to feel intense joy or fearing that too much happiness might invite bad luck. Research has indeed highlighted that this apprehension around happiness is quite prevalent in many individuals, emphasizing the need to address such beliefs. Always Putting Others First While being caring and empathetic are admirable qualities, there’s a fine line between being supportive and constantly sidelining our own needs. Consistently prioritizing

Introduction In today’s high-pressure corporate environment, your career is more than just a list of qualifications. Professional success is intricately linked with emotional well-being, which can often be traced back to formative experiences in our childhood. Believe it or not, ‘small’ childhood traumas can be pivotal in shaping your adult professional life. As a bio-energetic mental fitness life coach with a holistic approach, I’ve seen firsthand how addressing these hidden issues with life coaching can unlock avenues for career growth and personal happiness. Understanding ‘Small’ Childhood Traumas We all carry emotional baggage from our early years. These traumas may not necessarily be glaring instances of neglect or abuse. Even seemingly ‘small’ traumas—like emotional neglect, persistent teasing, or overwhelming parental expectations—can profoundly impact our mental health and, by extension, our career performance. How ‘Small’ Childhood Traumas Affect Your Career 1. Leadership Skills Poor self-esteem stemming from childhood experiences could manifest as hesitancy in leadership roles. Leadership isn’t about domineering control but inspiring trust and collaboration. A compromised sense of self can cripple these essential leadership qualities. 2. Decision-Making The echoes of childhood often linger in our adult decision-making. Career coaching can help spotlight these issues, allowing you to navigate professional choices with increased clarity and balanced judgment. 3. Team Relationships Forming effective teams requires trust, something that may be scarce if you’ve faced ‘small’ childhood traumas like emotional neglect. These past experiences could create invisible barriers to effective communication and collaboration. 4. Performance Anxiety This is a widespread issue in high-stakes

As human beings, we all have a basic need for connection and belonging. We want to feel like we matter, that we have a purpose and that others value us. However, when this need becomes an overpowering desire to feel needed, it can create issues that impact our mental and emotional well-being. Let’s take a closer look at some reasons why a person may feel the need to be needed and what can be done to overcome it. Low Self-Esteem A person with low self-esteem may believe they don’t have much to offer, so they seek validation by being needed by others. To overcome this, it’s essential to build self-esteem by identifying and challenging negative self-talk, focusing on strengths and accomplishments, setting and achieving goals, and engaging in self-care activities that promote positive feelings about oneself. Lack of Purpose If a person does not have a sense of purpose or direction in life, they may try to find it by being needed by others. Finding purpose can involve exploring one’s interests, values, and goals, and finding ways to use those things to contribute to something greater than oneself, such as a cause or community. Codependency A codependent person may feel like they need to be needed by others to feel valuable or important. Overcoming codependency can involve: Fear of Abandonment A person afraid of being abandoned may try to make themselves indispensable to others to prevent them from leaving. Addressing the fear of abandonment can involve examining the underlying beliefs